How To Turn Your Workouts From a Chore to Joy

As a transformational trainer my primary goal is to help people love themselves – to choose self love. I’ve been in the industry for 28 years and my personal journey taught me that self love is the key to true transformation, mind, body and spirit. Physical changes including weight loss are successfully achieved when we set the intention to strive for our goals from a place of self love. Period. When we love ourselves working out isn’t a chore. It is in fact a joy – just as every act of self love brings us. When we truly love ourselves we are able to discern what emotions, thoughts and actions serve us versus ones that don’t.


The Hurdles

My greatest challenge was making the shift from not being happy with my body to self love. I was overweight and working out. And any form of exercise created a lot of fear, discomfort and sometimes pain. I hated going to gym class. I had trouble keeping up with my peers in sports and fitness. I felt awkward and insecure. I failed most of the Canada’s Fitness Tests throughout elementary school and junior high. I went through the ups and downs, mostly downs, through my adolescent years. Self love wasn’t something I could ever consider when every time I saw myself in the mirror I was a reminder of the weight and my struggles.


I’ll Be Happy When…Syndrome

Many eople falsely believe that once you lose the weight you’ll be happy. I’m here to tell you otherwise. Your body is always responding to your emotional state of being whether it’s healthy or not. There’s nothing outside of you that you’ll be able to fix when the issues and solutions lie inside of you. I learned later on you can’t fix what’s wrong on the outside without fixing what’s wrong on the inside. 



Making the Shift

It took many years of personal development in my twenties and thirties to begin letting go of many negative belief systems I held. The weight that I was carrying represented belief systems that were rooted in fear. I discovered a book titled: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. I learned that my thoughts create my reality. By changing my thoughts and following the teachings of Louise Hay, I began to successfully change my body and my life. It is the foundations I developed from reading this book and many others that I live my life by and from which I created Transformational Training. The use of affirmations and mirror work are part of my daily personal and professional practice.


The Principle of Intention!

“You create your reality with your intention”.

-Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul

The most important reason to workout is you because you matter. Working out will change and improve your life if you set you as the intention. A simple declaration to the universe that “#IMatter” puts the magical forces in motion for a positive outcome!


Wake Up!

So, you still think working out is a chore and you haven’t gotten to the place of self love just yet. What do you do then? The transition from chore to joy is just that – a transition. In the book A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle says that unless you have acceptance, enthusiasm or enjoyment for anything that you are doing you are creating unhappiness in your life. “This unhappiness can spread like a disease,” says Tolle.

Acceptance, enjoyment and enthusiasm are modalities in which we experience life in an awakened state. To not be awake implies living by the ego, which is to live in dysfunction and suffering. Applying these modalities can smoothen the ups and downs in the transition process.



If you don’t love working out or love yourself can you accept that this is what you have to do and do it willingly? According to Tolle, “Performing an action in the state of acceptance means you are at peace while you do it.”  Peace is consciousness. By taking responsibility for your state of consciousness you are essentially taking responsibility for your life.



“When you say, I enjoy doing this or that, it is really a misperception. It makes it appear that the joy comes from what you do, but that is not the case. Joy does not come from what you do, it flows into what you do and thus into this world from deep within you”.

-Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth


You may not enjoy working out but you can put joy into working out. By doing so you are putting love into your life because this love comes from within a place that is rooted in consciousness. Actions filled with joy bring you to a state of alignment and allow you to be fully present in the moment. This feeling of harmony is then felt within ourselves, and everyone around us.

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“Enthusiasm means there is deep enjoyment in what you do plus the added element of a goal or a vision that you work toward”.

-Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth


Enthusiasm has a high vibration frequency. When intentions are set from this state of being there is no stress or effort in regards to our goals. You may experience physical tension while working out but it’s experienced as enjoyment. Stress and effort, for example “no pain, no gain,” are all signs the ego has returned.


“Everything that you do has to be fueled by consciousness or the spirit of God, even your workout; otherwise it has no real meaning in your life.”


Learning from Eckhart Tolle’s teachings I now see every challenge as not an obstacle but an opportunity for awakening and growth. My personal journey with my weight was exactly that. It was the pathway designed for me to support my awakening. Perhaps working out and exercise can be for you too.


In this next section my client Laurie Weir describes her journey in turning her workouts from a chore to joy.




By: Laurie Weir


As I mentioned in a previous article, I’ve never been more committed to a training schedule and fitness program in my life. Although I’ve been a member of a gym for 15 years, it wasn’t until I connected the act of self love and worthiness to my workouts that I really started to enjoy them and make fitness part of my life.


In the past, working out felt like an absolute chore. I often dreaded it. Getting up early, going to the gym and going through the motions of cardio or a weight circuit was dauting, exhausting and often painful. Seriously, who actually likes the StairMaster? Hell no. It felt like torture and I certainly wasn’t having any fun. Sure, I always left feeling better than when I came in, but, I always wished I could get to the point where I actually wanted to train, not just because I thought I had to.


As Farhan has taught me, “nothing positive comes from a negative intention”. So, once I reset my intentions for my workouts to come from a place of self love – and put love into them – it finally clicked. The way I felt not only after but during the workouts improved. I now smile and enjoy the experience, challenging myself to accomplish what’s in front of me. I have fun and look forward to the next unique movement Farhan will teach me. Most importantly, I don’t train now to improve anything. I train because it’s good for my soul, my body and my mind. It’s a huge part of my conscious choice to live a wellness-based life. And with its residual effects of smaller thighs and a tighter butt…all the more reason to celebrate!

Admittedly, it’s been a transition even for me…but if we learn to approach fitness with more enthusiasm and think of it as a way to truly connect with ourselves and show love and gratitude to our bodies for all that they do for us every day…we’ll reap so many more benefits from our workouts both inside and out. Get in your Healthy is Hot moment because you’re worth it!


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